What To Do: When You Lose Focus on Your Goals [Free Download Inside]
I think losing focus on our goals is something for us to discuss is because it happens to all of us and I'm not going to lie to you guys it just happened to me.
I started noticing that I was putting too much time and energy with what's going on with my business but I felt like I was neglecting my family so I decided I needed to change things up. So I decided I'm going to dedicate a couple of days of the week for my family and a couple of days of the week for business. I decided to do Sunday through Thursday for business and the rest of the week to my family.
My son was sick this past weekend, when my husband pick them up from daycare he had a fever and he was a little lethargic. Fast forward to Monday my son still isn't feeling any better we take him to the ER and we don't get home until about 12 or 1 a.m. And I had to work the next day. I dropped my son off at my mom's house and then I went to work. I worked half a day which was only so I can get a laptop so that I can work from home. Now mind you I work an hour from home and my parents live past my job. So I dropped my son off, then when I got to work had to go back further down to pick him up from my parents house to come back up north another hour. All day Tuesday I was...
But these are the days that I was supposed to be working on my business because my son was sick I didn't have the opportunity to do so and now I'm conflicted and tired.
I feel like I should have been doing a little bit more but at the same time these are not the type of things that are planned for. it took me longer to prepare for everything else that has to do with my business even though I was home more than I normally am because I was at home tending to my son who was sick. Feel like I could have been doing more but what more can I done when I was tending to my son. Because of that I had to pivot and adjust. Yes it's important for you to have a plan but it's also important for you to be able to go with the ebbs and flows of life. Not everything we plan is going to happen the way we plan for it to go.
Because of this I have a couple of tips here for you that will help you wrap your mind around when things like this happen.
- It happens to everyone. So don't think that it just happens to you because it doesn't. You're not doing anything wrong. The consistency train is for everyone sometimes. Don't think it's working for everyone else not for you because that's definitely not the case. it happens to everyone we all tend to get on and fall off and sometimes it is unintentional. Like I said my son was sick and I didn't plan for that but now it's taking me a little longer to get into the gist of things even though it was just the week prior that I decided I was going to try this new work plan.
2. Think about what options you have. Now I want to ask you something: let's say someone in your family gets sick and you have to be the caretaker. What options do you have? What do you do now when you have to change your course of action? You have two options
- Option #1: You can dwell on it. You can sit there and be mad or feel some type of way because things are not going as you planned. But for real where is that going to get you? What are you going to do and how are you going to move forward?
- Option #2: Taking action and deciding to move forward. Acknowledge the fact that, yeah it sucks. You don't want to stray away from you plan or course of action that you originally had planned. When my son was sick I had to make sure that I was giving him his medication on time and I was pushing fluids because I didn't want him to get dehydrated, make sure he was comfortable and no that was not my plan but when it's all said and done my son's health is priority.
We all have options I don't want for anyone to think the contrary. It's always up to you. Just keep in mind that it takes the same amount of time and energy to do either one of the options presented. The same amount of time you can spend dwelling on the fact that things are not going as planned, is the same amount of time that you can spend acknowledging the fact that yea it sucks and going with life as you try to make the necessary adjustment/accommodation.
3. Pay attention to patterns. The reason why this is so important is because if you find yourself constantly doing something that always set you off track, this can possibly be self-sabotaging. For example, when I put something off I notice that I always tell myself that I need to complete some type of household chore. It can be something like washing the dishes or making sure the kitchen or bathroom is clean.
You can't correct something you won't acknowledge.